Christmas Dinner at Nicols Village with Jean, Betsey, Ken and Glenn

 We arrived about 11;30am to Jean's apartment and talked while we put on our masks. Jean had a bad cold and cough. We asked if she got tested for Covid but being 99 3/4 years old, she did not know where or how to have a test. The Senior Community should have access to tests. 

Jean coughed and sneezed. She had failed to put her new hearing aids into their charger correctly again. Just drop them in at night. She can not comprehend that small detail. So we charged one ear and then half charged the other ear. She was very quiet at dinner. I so hoped that new hearing aids would put her back into the conversation pool. But, it was not to be. 

It would have been nice if she warned us that she was sick, but, that was not to be.

We wore masks in her apartment. We exchanged presents and drank gin.Dinner in the large dining facility was very good. Eating a huge dinner at 11:30am is a stretch for us. But we smiled and listened as the others talked about their upcoming trips, and problems. No one asked how we were, what were were doing. When I did talk, no one listened...it was like I was not in the same room. So I stayed quiet and planned what to eat for dinner.

There was no joy. No banter, no laughter. We marched down to dinner, marched back to her place and them drove home. Tired, and wish we could do something less depressing then have dinner with Jean, Ken and Betsy.

I go with Glenn to support him. But, so wish he had a very different family.It is what it is. A girl can only dream.

Thoughts For The Coming Year...2023

 It is 4:30pm and it is dark outside. My computer tells me to expect rain showers and advises me it is 39degrees Fahrenheit. There are strange sounds coming from the downstairs bathroom. It sounds like a large sawing away at a large piece of wood. Turns out that is my husband in the bathroom watching a youtube video on how to make something. HA!

2023

A year to respect all people who walk the earth. 

Last year was a year to eliminate toxic people from my company.

We will have Christmas dinner this year at Nicols Village large dining room with three toxic people.

Maybe I will able to learn something about myself by putting my myself into a senior citizen world with three toxic people. My mother in law who is four month away from 100. She is alittle senile, going blind, and has new hearing aids that work just fine for her. But, she is not used to the easy self-charging station. All she has to do is put the left hearing aid into the left side of the charging station...an easy drop into the station. Repeat with the right hearing aid. But this is too much for her. She will only push either hearing aid into the left side. She then proceeds to smash the hearing aid into the drop slot over and over again.

My dear Brother in law and his wife are both coming to Christmas meal. Each one is toxic in their own unique ways.

Ken is rude, does not think before speaking of what ever is rattling in his head, self-centered, has never ever ask anyone how they are. It is all about him, his pains, his aches, and his universe. Betsey, his wife has been bullied by Ken for years. Any thing he needs down, he delegates it to Betsey. She is very neurotic, bitter, and a mostly unkind person. At holiday dinners, she elected herself years ago to be the person to assign my table seat. But, she always waits until I have seated myself and I am comfortable. Then she calls out to me, and tells me where to sit. Last year after two complete knee surgeries I was recuperating day by day. Last year she wanted me to move once again. I firmly said no. I am not moving. Sorry this is where I will sit.

The food last year was pretty good. The drinks were not. They were not strong, and no limes were  present to jazz up the drink. It was a huge deal for the server to make a drink. This year I have a plan.

We will bring our own drinks.That would be wonderful and I hope they don't throw Glenn's mom out of the Village.

Some Times Life is Just Dull

Trying to make lemonade with lemons is my motto. But, spending an afternoon n Seabrook,NH can made an optimist into a sad and lonely person. The entire town is on RT 1 and it is one strip mall after strip mall, again and again, etc.  It has a Drive through Starbucks and at least a half dozen fireworks stores (not drive thrush).Numerous gas stations for all your gas needs, and it has a super Walmarts for your winter jogging.

Also there are many tattoo shops. smoke shops with the lowest ever prices. and banks. There are the chain hardware stores, on either side of the street. The State liquor Store is near the Marshalls. On and on it goes....  junk, more junk and all the junk you ever could use. 

There really is nothing in the town that I could call or pretend to call attractive. Just parking lot after parking lot....

                  

 I wish I could say it is a fun place and makes you smile. But, it just makes you grumpy, and grumpier.

Even the Holiday Decorations are cheap. Ho ho ho and merry holidays

holidays around the corner

 Looking forward to some snow and Christmas Joy.